To the Mom with the Toy Filled Living Room

To the mom with the toy filled living room, email me, I’ll send you a picture of mine to make you feel better about leaving your mess for one more night.

I hope that you sit on the couch with your husband and a glass of wine, turn on a TV show, and ignore the mess.

To the mom with the post baby blues. I feel you. They are real and scary.

I hope you get help and talk to someone, open up about the feelings and let someone in.

To the mom with the screaming toddler in the grocery store, it’s ok. No one cares, and the ones that do are jerks.

I hope you realize that not everyone is looking at you. I hope you leave with the milk and yogurt that you came for and your head held high while your toddler is still screaming. You are not alone.

To the mom who hasn’t showered in 3 nights, I’m on my fourth.

I hope you know that you are beautiful. Despite you pulling your hair up to hide the greasy look, you are busy raising babies and you can shower tonight.

To the mom who feels like they aren’t good at the mommy’ing thing read this. I was there once to. It gets better.

Every month gets easier and your confidence will grow and the mommy’ing thing gets so so much better. I’m on number 2 and the stress and doubt that crept in with number 1 is gone, and new doubts creep in, but you are more confident in handling those doubts.

To the mom that is reading this covered in spit up, poop, or some other bodily function.

You’ve never looked better. It’s part of those newborn days. Along with the perfect newborn snuggles comes a lot of bodily functions. Enjoy the snuggles 🙂

To the mom who is going back to work after maternity leave for the first time. It’s ok to cry the first day you drop them off, and it’s ok to be a little relieved too.

You are a strong and loving mama who works hard for your babies, and when you pick them up they will be waiting with open arms.

To the stay at home mom, I am you.

It’s more mentally draining than physical most days. You are a smart, intelligent woman, and you want someone to see you for more than a butt wiper and pb&j maker. They do, Don’t worry.

To the mom who hates breastfeeding I get you.

Screw the people that have nipples of steel insisting it doesn’t hurt. Get through the first five weeks. Find a support system. It gets better.

To the mom who misses her husband.

Remember when it was just you and him? It was easy. You did things like go on dates and talk. Make time for your relationship. Plan a date night. He’s still the same man you fell in love with.

To the mom who is stressed about losing the baby weight.

You grew a baby in your belly, nourishing them for an entire year. That is incredible. Give yourself a break. Stop eating crappy food and start going for a walk or working out and it will come off.

One thing I love about being a mom, is I’m never alone. There is always another mom who has been through it or is currently going through the same thoughts and emotions that I am.

Surviving the early mom days depends on giving up your idea of what a perfect mom is. Surviving means making it work for you and your family.

It isn’t comparing or judging, it is losing all expectations you had going in.

If you are giving them all of your love, and your decisions are being made with them first, you are doing it right.